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I love this so much! I wrote a few words recently about an interview I heard with David Brooks about his beliefs, and his book The Road To Character. He discusses resume virtues versus eulogy virtues (profound, right.?!) and how too many people now seek fame over character. Your friend seems to have character in spades, as do you. I truly respect this quality.

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I love David Brooks and that book was crazy good. Thank you for reminding me about it. Just heard a line from a Josh RItter song this morning - "Have mercy on the man who sings to be adored."

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What a perfect line.

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In an ego-driven world we can choose a different way of being, which paradoxically, makes us stand out. Michael, I love that you use your voice to lift up the underdog. Keep it up!

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Thank you Amy. Gotta love the underdogs.

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I have been described as a quiet leader. I am definitely the one listening and observing everyone and everything. Some days I forget that this can be a good thing. Thank you for reminding me!

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Same. I just published a book on how I developed my leadership style by leaning into the very qualities you described Laura. I wrote it just as much for me as anyone else as I need to be reminded that I'm doing okay as I am. Leaders come in all shapes and sizes and not one is best.

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I love the emphasis on being a learner and a listener. In our fast-paced, information-saturated world, it's easy to get caught up in the need to constantly contribute our own thoughts. Kevin's ability to position himself as a "sponge" is a powerful lesson in the art of active listening. It's not just about absorbing information; it's about creating a space where others feel heard and valued.

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What I love most about Kevin is I once asked him a question and he replied, "I need some time on that one." I thought he'd forget but a few days later he called me and said, "I put aside some time to think about your question and here's where I'm at with it." From his response it was clear he physically sat down and wrote out his thoughts before sharing them with me. Made me feel like a million bucks.

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What a great guy and true friend! Taking time to answer truly.

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Being underestimated is a superpower. I have had similar experiences being a few inches taller than 5ft. But, it does allow me to listen in, observe and learn a lot more. Great lesson Michael!

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I love the freedom of being underestimated and initially overlooked as it give me permission to do my own thing and it's much easier to surprise people. "I didn't expect that or see that coming" is super memorable.

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Exactly!

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There’s that saying: ‘It’s really not all about ‘me’.’ Throughout my life my peers and others have said that I’m a good listener. Complete strangers divulge deeply personal things to me, I never quite understood why. I try to help people the best I can; and lift them with a joke, kind words, a smile, or something. Your article explains ‘why’ so clearly. Thank you.

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I just published an article outside of this platform on CEOWorld on the highly-sought after quality (yet highly under-rated quality) of being someone who puts people at ease - which sounds like you Karina. Being someone strangers open up to may be my favorite quality in someone.

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Wow, thank you, Michael.

I must say that sometimes this quality comes with a ‘price’ - especially when you feel troubled and concerned that you’re unable to help someone more. The associated guilt with the detachment - coupled with the understanding that people will ultimately find their own way; and you just have to let it be.

Having these qualities makes one appear/be more approachable in a workplace - which can in itself, be potentially problematic especially when you’re not the manager (I’ve be there).

In social situations and community; it can be a little tiring when everyone seems to gravitate towards you.

Life and its lessons. One of the biggest things I’ve learned is self-care. You can’t be there for your family or others, if you don’t look after yourself.

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Now this is refreshing. Now if only more people got the memo to be more like Kevin. Great writing as always as you make reading easy.

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I really appreciate that Lala. thank you for the continued support.

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This was a great read. I love when people are underestimated; that is the launching pad that helps you overdeliver. It is so important to be humble and realize that you can always learn more; you never are at the end of that journey. At the end of the day, it is better to let your character be louder than anything else. Actions matter more than talk any day.

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"I love when people are underestimated; that is the launching pad that helps you overdeliver."

Love this line - plus it makes overdelivering so much easier as people may not expect as much;).

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Thanks! Yes. Set the bar low, be unassuming, then knock it out of the park! LOL

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As an extroverted, almost 5'8", Sagittarius, the only time I was shy was when I wasn't yet in school. The source of the shyness was a jealous older sibling. This shyness and belief that I wasn't good enough, followed me into relationships. My true self is exuberant, in love with life, excited to see nature in my backyard, and excited to share my healing gifts with the world. Someone tried to dress me in muted colors once and I rebelled by staining them one by one. A fellow Sagittarius has taught me how to tone down my personality and listen. And I'm buying your book because I believe there is something there I need to know. And, of course, to support you and your writing.

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Thank you so much for this Dawn. Means the world and not just buying the book but the desire to learn from other people's experience. Much love and do let me know what you think about the book as I'd love to hear your thougths time allowing.

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Enjoyed this.

You gain nothing from being prideful, not even the respect of others.

You know what they say, "Empty gourds make the loudest noise."

You make the greatest impact when you listen and observe because that is when you learn the most.

Thanks for this brilliant piece, Michael.

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Love this Precious - "Empty gourds make the loudest noise." Good things come when we embrace being a "noticer."

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I’m a touch under six foot. Does that count??

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No but your fake Scottish accent and cute little graphics on your articles is a nice play to get people to remember you;).

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I really enjoyed this article.

I’ve always like the idea of people feeling comfortable to talk to me without knowing who or what I am.

You learn so much from different perspectives. When others find out that you are a person of status they struggle to say what they really think because they fear that their ideas might be perceived as stupid.

It kind of feels like you’re an undercover spy or a chameleon. Back in the day kings use to go disguised as citizens to find out how people are living and working in their kingdom. It was a great way to find out what people truly thought and help solve problems that were not talked about in Royal courts.

Thanks for sharing your thoughts 😇

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This is eye-opening. I have seen people try to dominate the room and end up hated for it. the best approach is to be observant, come off as curious and be a hell of a good listener. All traits I am going to embody.

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Such a unique take, and so refreshing to hear as an introvert. In today’s attention economy, with everyone trying to stand out on social media, it can feel like being humble is a disadvantage. However, it is this very quality that can make you stand out from the crowd. Loved this article.

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I loved this post. I'd describe myself as quiet person and to be very frank I struggle to dominate conversations. So I really love this perspective change. It's motivating. Thank you :)

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Quiet is often interpreted as confidence and knowledgeable. It’s the loud and abrasive that come across as trying too hard.

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